How to Become an Escort’s Favorite Client: 9 Practical Tips from an Industry Insider

Have you ever wondered about what exactly it takes to become a professional escort’s most favorite client? If you answered “yes” then this post will be very helpful to you. Get ready to tour the journey to top client territory.

I’ve been blessed with some truly wonderful clientele in my escort career. I feel incredibly fortunate for all of the ones that I’ve met along the way. That said, there are a few favorites that stand out in my mind.

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Introduction

Everyone wants to be someone’s favorite ‘something’. It’s a natural desire that is intrinsic to the human experience. You’ll find no shortage of this desire in the commercial sex industry. I implore you to visit any SW based forums, escort ad site blogs or conversations on Reddit/Twitter/Quora. These places are FULL of questions from would-be clients about how they can become an escort’s favorite client.

Thread after thread of men seeking advice on how to secure a top spot on their companion’s ‘favorite’ list. So, today I am going to break down 9 of the most impactful tips to help you obtain the coveted “favorite client” status.

Advice & Tips

What does going ‘above and beyond’ mean to a professional escort? Sex workers are not a monolith, each one is different. All of them have unique interests, priorities and motivations for choosing this line of work. However, there are some universally agreed upon things that can be done to increase a client’s likability. These 9 tips are for gentlemen who ABSOLUTELY adore their favorite companions and want that feeling to be reciprocated.

1. Send Screening Information and Deposit With Booking Inquiry

If you want to really start off on a good note one of the most impactful things you can do is to send your screening information + deposit included with the initial booking inquiry. It’s a sure fire shortcut to the top of a companion’s favorite client list.

This may seem like a rather inconsequential gesture to you, but to an escort it holds a lot of weight. This one action alone serves as an immediate pre-qualifier to high priority and/or possibly preferential treatment. Several reasons why it’s an invaluable power move include:

• It shows that you are 100% serious about following through with the booking (and should be prioritized as such)
• You value their time by making the booking process as quick and smooth as possible
• It’s an indicator of financial stability and possibly, generosity

One real world example of this is how I handle inquiries from clients who use my booking form and submit their screening information versus those who don’t. If someone forgoes the booking instructions listed on my ads in favor of sending a 1-4 word text message then my response will vary greatly… And by “greatly” I mean not at all.

For example, I’ll give priority’s booking and typically become much more flexible in my scheduling. I am also more likely to send photos and other content. Most importantly, though, I’m so much more enthusiastic and excited to meet them than I am with a text-only client.

2. Bring A Snack Or Beverage

These two examples offer a brief snapshot of an escort’s potential monthly advertising costs. Although most sites do have a ‘free’ plan option, an upgraded membership is critical to staying visible and showing up in the search results.

Okay so this tip is simple and straight to the point. BRING A TREAT to your companion! Make a habit of asking her if there’s anything she’d like you to pick up on the way. However, I must preface this by saying that each and every escort is different. They have their own taste and things they enjoy. The key is communication. Once you get to know them more you can personalize the treat to their liking!

There was another client who used to periodically pay for my lingerie shopping cart (I could really use the help with this again as I lost all of my clothes and sex toys in the 2025 flooding event). Another guy paid for my annual WordPress membership subscription for my website (it’s around $200).

If you are booked for a morning or early afternoon session the best thing you can do is stop by an espresso stand and pick up her favorite drink. Don’t be afraid to ask which one they like and then bring it without being asked every session.

Other common fast favorites are Red Bull (or other energy drinks), tasty candies like Starburst, Jolly Ranchers, candy bars, etc. Non-food notable mentions include scratch tickets and cigarettes/vapes (if applicable, make sure first) can be a much appreciated fun little gift.

Now, if you are meeting for longer, multi-hour sessions it’s best to bring light finger foods and snacks. A favorite drink of mine is a bottle of sparkling cider! Rest assured when I tell you that putting in that little bit of thoughtful effort by bringing a cheap snack or drink will immediately set you apart from other clients.

The point is to answer as many of your questions as you can via the information on their website. This way, when you’re not requiring the escort to provide free emotional labor, extra time or attention.

3. Show Your Appreciation With A Tip

Tipping is never expected nor is it a requirement to have a great session. However, it is always very much appreciated. Even a small $40 tip will immediately set you apart from like 85% of their clientele. Rest assured, a mental note about your generosity will be taken and filed away in their brain for next time.

An escort, like any other service provider, is more likely to go above and beyond for you when that appreciation is reflected by additional compensation. It’s not uncommon to be offered small perks like a little extra time together, providing upcharge services at standard rate, etc.

I guarantee that just displaying this gesture alone will be deeply appreciated! You’re bound to earn an automatic bump up to her ‘favorite’ status.

Now, what do you think would happen if a client consistently included a tip with the payment for each session? If you answered “became one of their favorite clients” then congrats! You are correct.

One time a client found out about my new houseplant hobby. He remembered what I said, in passing, about the plants not getting sunlight because my window was broken and had to be boarded up. What did he do with that information? *take notes, lads* He purchased a super nifty indoor lighting system and gifted it to me on our first date. This man is such a badass. He booked a 24hr session 1-month in advance and sent the 20% deposit with his screening form (20% of $3k) without having to be asked. The cherry on top, however, was the several hundred dollars he sent “just because” between the time of booking and our date.

Tipping is like a favoritism cheat code. That’s the way it is across the board. It’s certainly not exclusive to escorts either! I stand firm on the opinion that if you replace ‘escort’ with any other service based professional, the statement remains true. Tipping hairdressers, massage therapists, dog walkers, ride share drivers, nail technicians, etc. is a one-way ticket to the top of their ‘favorite clients’ list.

4. Buy Something On Their Wishlist

Another solid tip to become your ATF’s favorite is to purchase something from their wishlist. And no, I don’t mean a theoretical or imagined “wish list”. I’m talking about a digital wishlist.

Many escorts use an online wishlist gifting platforms to receive gifts and even as an alternative payment method for deposits, custom content, etc. It’s fairly common to see a wishlist link promoted in their social media posts, listed in profile bio and/or linked on their website. Some popular sex work friendly gifting platforms are Wishtender, LuxyList and YouPay.

Wishlist items generally consist of sex work related things like lingerie, toys, furniture like swings, leg spreaders and other adult pleasure apparatuses. But, with that said it’s not uncommon to see non-SW things on the list too. Must read books, perfumes, electronics, makeup, games, perfume and so much more!

Now, take My Wishlist, for example. It’s a mix of sexy lingerie, fun toys and other items that directly affect my ability to excel at doing my job. Stuff that I want like wigs, filming appliances, cosmetics, etc. dominate the list.

Jane’s Wishlist

Pictured below is a collage of various items that are actually on my online wishlist.

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It think that it is fair to say that wishlist item costs vary wildly from provider to provider. I can’t even really speculate about how much you could be looking to have to spend on an average escort’s wishlist. Admittedly, I forgot to include the prices for each item on my wishlist in the captions. Bummer! What I can tell you is that the most expensive thing (the laptop) is under $300. Most of the other products range between $30-$150.

What can I say? I wouldn’t exactly say that I’m a cheap date BUT I am a frugal, fiscally responsible girly. I don’t fall into to ‘girl next-door’ category for no reason.

Purchasing a gift from an escort’s public wishlist is the a win-win. You can’t go wrong with it. You already know that it’s something they like and want. This gesture WILL be interpreted as thoughtful and generous. It’s always a lovely surprise to receive notification that someone bought something on my wishlist!

5. Help Pay For Sex Work Supplies & Tools Of The Trade

This practical, sex work-forward tip is a far less popular one that I don’t see much discussion about, despite it being a CRIMINALLY underrated gift. That is, helping a companion pay for work supplies a.k.a. the so called ‘tricks of the trade‘.

If a client were to go out of their way to help alleviate some of the financial pressure of running a full time independent escort service business, that ALONE = you’re one of their favorite clients.

The operational cost and overhead expenses for an independent escort to continue to professionally conduct business is probably much higher than you’d guess. It’s not uncommon for around 35% of revenue to go right back into my sex work business each month. These figures are actually on par with the average non-sex work business (A.K.A. what escorts refer to as ‘civilian—civ for short’).

For instance, most escorts advertise on multiple platforms. Personally, only 1 of the 4 websites I use regularly is free to post on. Each has it’s own multi-tier membership subscription prices. On TNA I choose the ‘premium’ tier for $69/mo and on Tryst I opt for the ‘standard’ tier for $75/mo. I would absolutely LOVE to be able to advertise on Eros but those ad prices average out to around $300/mo.

The Cost Of Advertising

Some providers have a greater need for material than others to successfully run their business. One example is fetish/domme companions. Their sessions typically incorporate more props, toys and torture apparatuses. Things like paddles, riding crops, nipple clamps, leg spreaders, suspension ropes, dildos, latex suits, chastity cages, etc.

Another example is a Nuru FBSM provider. Regular Nuru oil purchases, tarps, massage tables, etc. Oh yeah, and don’t forget about filming equipment like tripods, ring lights, sound and editing software.

Then there’s the cost of routine maintenance to upkeep our appearance. This can include things like cosmetic procedures/treatments like Botox, fillers, sexy lingerie/costume outfits, getting nails done, hair care, eyebrow sculpting, chemical peels, lash extensions, etc.

6. Be A Consistent Regular

This one is a relatively straightforward tip. Though for some reason I see quite a few clients questions like “how can I become a regular?”. The answer is simple: book appointments with a companion on a semi-recurring basis. That’s it.

There is no set timeframe of amount of visits that you have to go to. Not only that, every provider has their own personal definition of what they considered to be a ‘regular’. There isn’t some special club for regulars. It’s not a title that is bestows upon you. It is literally just a matter of hiring a call girl time after time again. Do that enough times and you’ll be one of her regular clients.

Being a ‘regular’ client doesn’t automatically = FAVORITE. But, I promise you that 90% of a companion’s most favorite clients ARE ‘regulars’. This is because being a consistent, reliable source of income is ultimately the most important thing—just like any other job.

Why Client “Regulars” Are A Valuable Asset To An Escort’s NSFW Business Model

• Provides a steady, semi-consistent income
• Saves time on booking because they’re already pre-screened
• Better organic chemistry and increased comfortability
• Builds trust over time that leads to a more compatible dynamic which leads to a more pleasurable experience for both parties

It really is as simple as just showing up consistently and being a good patron of their services. Luckily for you the baseline of what is considered a ‘good client’ takes little effort. What that looks like: Basic hygiene (a thorough shower will suffice), paying the agreed upon rate every time without attempting to negotiate, not staying longer than the time you and respecting your provider’s boundaries.

7. Send Cash Gifts On Holidays, Special Occasions Or ‘Just Because’

If these tips were listed by order of importance then this one would have the #1 spot. For good reason, too. Who doesn’t like to get unexpected ‘payment received’ notifications from their banking app, JUST BECAUSE?

Tip #7 is self explanatory. It doesn’t really need further elaboration. Surprise money is fucking awesome. Whether your companion spends on something extra as a treat or a helpful survival expense it will be so appreciated. Appreciated and remembered. Have you ever heard the saying that “people don’t remember what you did to them, they remember how you made them feel”? It definitely applies here. They’ll automatically associate you with a fluttering feeling of excitement, a dopamine rush and the subsequent relief that comes with lessening their stress load.

I’ve got just one more worthwhile point about this. That is, you WILL become a favorite client if you implement my advice on this.

8. Be Flexible & Easy To Book With

One of the most annoying sex work pet peeves that I have is when there is excessive back and forth correspondence during the booking process. Scheduling a date with a professional companion should only take 1-2 emails or 3-5 texts MAX.

Remember; it’s not just you who is asking these questions. It’s common for escorts in Skagit County to receive anywhere from 5-20 inquiries each day… And most of them are asking the same damn questions! Over and over and over again despite the answers being publicly readily available to them within 2 clicks of a mouse!

An easy way to speed up the booking process is to try to find out all of the important information about the escort prior to reaching out. So, what does that actually look like in practice? Maybe a quick scan of their previous ads, check out post history and identify all the relevant details or instructions to follow. Next, take a look at their website and read ALL OF IT. Every single page on the website.

Then (and only then) have you done your due diligence and it’s the right time to reach out! Research is your friend. Being easy to book with means eliminating any actions that waste both yours and the escort’s time.

Another thing that is an annoying waste of time is asking the provider to send you so-called ‘verification pics’. Or even worse, requesting a FaceTime/video to “verify their identity”. I go into far deeper detail about this subject in my previous blog post called ‘5 Reasons Why An Escort Won’t Do FaceTime Calls Or Verification Pics‘. If the goal is to get the highest standard of service during your session then the absolute LAST thing you want to do is begin the interaction by asking them to basically do more work for free.

9. Help Finance Personal Development Or Non-Sexwork Career Pursuits

Last but certainly NOT least, let’s discuss tip #9: help finance personal development endeavors or non-sexwork career pursuits.

I think it is safe to say that this one has the potential to be the most impactful way to become an escort’s favorite client. Here’s why: most sex workers plan to eventually retire from the industry or take a step back to focus on more sustainable, less complex employment opportunities. Most of us do not want to be an independent escort for the rest of our lives. Nothing wrong with it, but many sex workers use this job as a stepping stone to greener pastures.

A sure fire way to set yourself apart from other clients is to invest in an escort’s personal and or professional development outside of sex work. This might look like helping pay for their education or invest in their business. Perhaps they need supplies and materials to start creating products for their business. Maybe they need help with the cost of filing fees to create an LLC.

It’s understandable that not every client can afford to be a silent investor in a startup! Matter of fact, most can’t. That type of generosity is typically reserved for ‘whale’ clients. BUT even the little things count. You just have to ask the companion exactly what they need and that you’d like to help them in this area.

Things That My Favorite Clients Have Done

Since this is MY blog after all, it would feel a bit disingenuous to not share some of my own experiences of clients going and beyond to impress or spoil me. These are just a few examples of how these client’s went above and beyond to earn their ‘favorite’ client status.

One memorable example is about a lovely guy who made his way onto my ‘top 3 favorite client’s of all time’ list within one visit. You see, he had booked a 24 hour session 2 weeks in advance (which means it came with a fat deposit). So we stayed in touch every few days to chit chat, talk about our plans and get to know each other better. Somehow the topic came up about my indoor plants not getting sunlight because my bedroom window broke and had to be boarded up. I had expressed disappointment over this but nothing major.

Fast forward to the day of our date. When I arrived I gave him a hug he immediately diverted my attention to a few large gift bags in the corner. They were filled with an intricate lighting system for my plants! I couldn’t believe that he paid such close attention to what I said. It was one of the best gifts EVER because of the thought behind it.

One of my most cherished clients used to ‘sponsor a bill’ each month. It could be credit card payments, phone bill, utilities, etc. He always put in the extra effort of picking up an iced vente white chocolate/Irish cream breve and a pack of Starbursts Reds♥️. I must say R.I.P. Stan, as he unfortunately passed away in 2023.

Some of my favorite clients randomly send me $100-$500 throughout the year. One of those men always brings me a Redbull and dog treats for my canine companion. He’s the real MVP and I’m always excited to get to see him! It feels less like work and more like the money is just a bonus.

Some non-financial things that my favorite clients have done include cooking an excellent meal, opting to spend their time giving me a deep tissue massage and using their connections to help me find a place to live.

Conclusion

Now you know nine ways to become your favorite escort’s favorite client! To bring this post to a close, let’s summarize the most important points:

• Come Prepared! Include session details and screening information in your intro message
• Be flexible and easy to book with
• Bring a convenient snack, drink or small gift to every date
• TIP! Can’t go wrong giving someone more cash than they were expecting to get
• Purchase something from their wishlist
• Be a consistent regular (that means regularly booking sessions so often that they can count on it)
• Go above and beyond what the average client would do. ex. sending money as a “thank you” or “just because”, buying SW supplies like toys, lingerie, devices, etc.

I give you my word as a professional gentlemen’s companion of 6+ years that if you implement a combination of a few of these tips that you will become one your provider’s favorite clients!